"I don't like my teacher."

"My teacher doesn't like me."

"I don't like the way my teacher teaches."

"My teacher doesn't know how to teach."

"I'm not one of my teachers favorites."

"My teacher is always picking on me."

Most students who think they have problems with their teachers are either not going to class regularly, not participating in class constructively, not doing homework, and/or not studying for tests. The immature student, rather than taking responsibility for their behavior, blames it on the teacher or other students. As their grades drop they think they are "getting back" at their teacher by continuing to act out in class or by not doing their homework. Bottom-line is that the only person they are hurting is themselves, not the teacher or parents or anyone else.

If a student is going to class regularly, participating constructively, doing homework, and studying for tests, there should be no problems. The mature student understands that what matters is learning, NOT if they like the teacher or the teacher likes them. They understand that teachers have good days and bad days, just like everyone else. They know that if they are talking or fooling around in class they will probably get in trouble with the teacher. The mature student will do everything they have to do to be successful in class and they will be aggressive about it.

If you are doing what a mature student does but are having legitimate problems with a teacher or a class, DON'T shut down. You need do something positive about it as soon as possible. Here are some options:

  • Talk to your teacher (before or after class) and explain your concerns in a calm and diplomatic way. Speak your truth.
  • Talk it over with your parents. See if you can come up with some ideas with their help.
  • Just can't do it or already tried? Talk to your guidance counselor or an administrator.
    They might talk with the teacher on your behalf or mediate a discussion between you both.